TOXIC | RELATIONSHIPS

Recently, Marissa Lace made a video (here) about toxic relationships. While I completely agree with everything she said, there is something I want to add.

Recently, I let go of an eleven year friendship with somebody I thought was going to eventually be my bridesmaid. We both held onto the relationship for a lot longer than was right for either of us.

My relationship with my long time friend wasn’t just toxic because she didn’t have my best interest at heart, but because I didn’t have her best interest at heart either. I held a lot of resentment toward her but never took the time to voice what had hurt me. The relationship was toxic for both of us, so I don’t fault her for it. Our chemistry just simply wasn’t there anymore, and we brought out the worst in each other. I was a negative version of myself while I had her in my life.

My point is, don’t leave your relationships or friendships bitter. The anger will only hold you back for finding the perfect relationship for you. Let go of the toxicity, mourn the loss, and be fluid in finding better relationships.

“…If you accept everyone you meet along the way as a teacher, and if you are prepared – most of all – to face, and forgive, some very difficult realities about yourself…then truth will not be withheld from you.”

Elizabeth Gilbert

Thanks for reading, and find Marissa’s YouTube here.

If you’ve ever had a toxic relationship (friendship, etc), feel free to share,

Eat, Pray…Passion?

Today, I want to speak to the curious readers.

I have to admit, I’m not a huge reader. I’ll pick up a book then and now, however, no book has ever spoke to me more than Elizabeth Gilbert’s “Eat, Pray, Love”. It is a gorgeous book about travelling, depression, love, lust and finding yourself.

I swear, that book is my bible – I’ve gone through and highlighted each of my favourite lines. I’ll share a few of my favourite quotes from it:

• “Somewhere within us all, there does exist a supreme self who is eternally at peace”
• “When the past has passed from you at last, let go. Then climb down and begin the rest of your life. With great joy.”
• “There’s nothing you can ever do to lose my love. I will protect you until you die, and after your death I will still protect you. I am stronger than Depression and I am braver than Loneliness and nothing will ever exhaust me”
• “I’m choosing happiness over suffering. I know I am. I’m making space for the unknown future to fill up my life with yet-to-come surprises.”

For those who are still reading, I urge you to watch this video. It is our dear Elizabeth Gilbert speaking about passion and curiosity and pressure.